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RISING WOMEN EXPERT
ADVICE...
I was abused as a child and now I struggle with trusting in my
relationships. I’ve read books, done affirmations and visualizations, taken
courses and done therapy, but the changes don’t last. Why
can’t I heal?
There are common reasons why it is hard for people to heal and change. An
abusive childhood installs negative patterns that were learned from parents/
authorities figures or created by you to protect you from being hurt
emotionally, physically or Spiritually. These negative patterns are “stuck”
in your unconscious mind and they surface later as unwanted behaviors or
negative beliefs: “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t trust men.” Following
are NLP’s 8 common reasons why it is so hard to change:
1) The work is incomplete. There remain several “negative mental programs”
that have to change before you see positive results or the changes did not
happen in your deep unconscious minds level.
2) You don’t know how to change to get what you want, you are not objective
enough, or you do not have the “skills” to make the changes on your own.
3) You have an internal conflict; part of you wants to change and another
part doesn’t. These mixed feeling sabotage your best efforts and can feel
like two opposing sides of you.
4) You need assistance to change. Bigger issues are deeply stuck in the
unconscious mind and need a therapy that will make cooperative changes there
(see exercise “Rate Your Blocks” at
www.expanding-minds.com for issues you can change yourself and
ones you need help with).
5) You need to learn new skills, develop flexible choices, and integrate new
behaviors into your life first.
6) You need to give yourself time or a chance to learn or change. It may be
a process.
7) You need to clearly define what you don’t want or what is not acceptable
in your life and remove focus from it.
8) You need to clearly define what you do want. If you are unclear or feel
uncertain, you may not recognize it when it appears. The clearer and more
congruent you are...the quicker you achieve it.
Remember that you can release the past. You can re-program fears, unwanted
behaviors and negative beliefs. You can build trust in yourself. You can
create trusting, healthy relationships. You can change with lasting results!
Jan Mitchell, Master NLP, Hypnosis & Reiki Master specializes in
eliminating blocks & sabotage with NLP. For advice, call 403.225.2973
www.expanding-minds.com
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