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How can I encourage more romance in my relationship?
By Natalie Hjesvold of Passion PartiesRomance is very
different things to many people. For women, romance can encompass flowers,
words of love and sensual touch. For men, romance can encompass words of
encouragement, one- on-one time and unwavering support. Whatever it may be
to the individual, the most important ingredient in romance is definitely
communication.
Clear communication is the easiest way to have unending romance in a
relationship. So with that said, it is important to have an honest and open
conversation with your partner, telling them what romance means to you.
Start the conversation with a question such as “What do I do for you that
makes you feel romantic and what would you like for me to do that I have not
done before?” By starting the conversation by asking your partner these
questions, you are allowing your partner the opportunity to tell you what
they enjoy so you can pay more attention to those items and, of course, what
they would like more of.
You can also begin the conversation with a statement like, “I love it when
you…” By telling your partner what you enjoy about your intimate life
together, you are encouraging them to continue. Your conversation may go
something like this: “Honey, I love it when you come home from work and
greet me at the door with a slow kiss. It makes me feel like you are happy
to see me at the end of the work day and that you want to be close to me.”
You can also say things like this: “Honey, I really enjoy it when we spend
time cuddling on the couch together. It makes me feel like we are the only
two people in the whole world and we can just concentrate on each other.”
Communication is the sexiest form of romance. Words can be the most intimate
form of touch for anyone. Men truly want us to tell them what we love and
the type of romance we crave. The sexiest form of romance for a man can be
an intimate conversation about our desires and wants. By opening up and
telling our partner what turns us on and how he can best romance you, he
gains the opportunity to be successful in his pursuit of you. Sometimes your
partner will work best with a “list” of what you want, other times he may
work better with suggestions and tips. It doesn’t always have to be a
step-by-step process, however, by providing the framework for romance, you
will ensure a successful outcome.
For more romantic advice, contact Natalie Hjesvold, Executive Manager
of Passion Parties at 403.618.9463. Visit her website at
www.calgarypassion.com |
