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RISING WOMEN EXPERT
ADVICE...
In a generally
selfish “ME” oriented culture, does consistent kindness still make sense?
There is no doubt that there is a trend in our culture towards a selfish
“ME” oriented focus. This is tragic because Confucius said we should forget
injuries, but never forget kindnesses. Even social scientists are amassing a
growing body of evidence to show that we are successful as a species
precisely because of our nurturing, compassionate and altruistic traits.
They call it “the survival of the kindest”. So does it make sense to show
consistent kindness, or should we fall for the mantra that “it’s all about
me?” Personally, I am big on Karma. I think of Karma as parallel to the Law
of Sowing and Reaping where the things we do come back to us. So, why not
live, speak and show consistent kindness?
Kindness is Caring and Compassion - These are fundamental
spiritual values and sacred human rights. The Dalai Lama said: “If you want
others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice
compassion.”
Kindness is Comforting and Completing - There are times when
we feel those around us need direction, correction and instruction. Though
that may be true, make sure that before you offer it, you offer comfort.
When people we love are struggling, first offer a hug; then offer a roadmap.
Kindness will put them in a place to receive.
Kindness is Creating, Hope, Vision, Dreams and a Future - Many
wrestle to believe in themselves, and so of course, they live their lives at
about 25% of their true potential. Kindness and acceptance create a sense in
people of true worth and value -- which, in essence, acts as fuel for their
hopes and dreams. It is amazing to realize that we have power to activate
the hopes, vision and dreams of another!
Kindness is Clarifying and Coaching - We do people no favour
by just patting them on the back if they are walking off a cliff. Part of
true kindness is working through issues and even errors in judgment with
people while proactively working toward a solution! Clarifying and coaching
people towards healthy, positive choices is authentic kindness!
Kindness is Contagious - The end result of kindness is that it
draws people to you. No one likes to be around a person who is judgmental,
impatient and intolerant. Remember the words of William Wordsworth as you
journey: “That best portion of a good man’s life; his little, nameless,
unremembered acts of kindness and of love.”
Abe Brown is the Certified Master Coach Trainer & Regional Vice President
for the Certified Coaches Federation. To learn more about becoming a
coach, Call 1.866.455.2155.
www.certifiedcoachesfederation.com
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