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RISING WOMEN EXPERT
ADVICE...
I have just changed cities and jobs and am feeling very insecure. Is
there any steps I can take to get ME Back!
Major life changes can bring about feelings of insecurity as we learn new
skills and move out of our comfort zone. Feelings of doubt and anxiety are
quite a normal part of the process. In fact, there is a natural learning
cycle called the “Competence Cycle”. Understanding where in the cycle you
are at any particular point will help you to better deal with doubt and move
you in the direction you desire.
In Stage 1: Unconsciously Incompetent - We often don’t even know what
we don’t know. At this stage, we may not even know the questions we need to
ask to create changes.
In Stage 2: Consciously Incompetent - We are very aware of how
incompetent we are. We don’t fit in, and it is obvious that we are unsure of
ourselves. I suspect this is exactly where you are in the cycle. Don’t fret
- it is all part of the natural process you need to go through.
In Stage 3: Consciously Competent - We are now aware of everything we
know and need to know. We know exactly what we need to do, and we
consciously choose our actions.
In Stage 4: Unconsciously Competent - We naturally respond and act to
get things done.
You have taken a major step in your growth by recognizing that you are not
feeling yourself and want to get the “real you” back. The good news is the
“real you” never left! The emotions you are currently feeling have more to
do with all the changes you have experienced in a short time, and less to do
with who you are. In the book, Stop Holding Back, I discuss the process Easy
as ABC, which I recommend using when dealing with change. Easy as ABC stands
for:
A - Accept your emotions: The first step is to identify where you are
in the cycle and then accept the emotions that come with that change.
B - Be with the emotion: We spend most of our lives in the process of
achieving our goals; however, it is in the daily “being” we will find
fulfillment. Therefore, don’t fight your emotions. Feel and express them.
Allow your emotions to help create the changes you desire.
C - Change: When timing is right, choose to embrace the changes you
are currently dealing with. One step at a time; allow your true-self to
shine! Act as if you were meant to be where you are right now, right in this
moment.
To learn more about the success processes that moves you from where
you are to where you want to be, contact Tina Cassidy at
www.purposewithin.com
& order your copy of “Stop Holding Back” today!
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