 Loving
Relationships - Enhance Your Sexual Experience
By Karen Klassen of Imagine Seminars
If your sex life isn’t satisfying, your relationship could be in
jeopardy. Maybe it’s time to stop being busy and deal with the issue. Get
real with how you feel. Do you wish your partner would touch you in a more
meaningful way? Do you wish your partner understood your needs or desires?
Would you like to explore new avenues of sexuality that honour your mind,
body and spirit?
What women tend to forget is that you have the power to transform your sex
life for the better. How? By transforming yourself. It’s about thinking
differently so you can act differently. If you want more intimacy or
meaningful touch or need extended foreplay, it is up to you. Sex involves
more than just two naked bodies focusing on performance. It also involves
the art of communication which allows for an exchange of energy that deepens
the experience.
If you are unsatisfied with your sex life, who are you blaming? I trust
you’re not pointing to your spouse or partner. If you are unsatisfied, it is
up to you to change it. Be brave. Be bold. Change can only happen when you
communicate and share your needs and desires.
Don’t ever expect anyone to read your mind or think that after all these
years your partner should know what you want. The truth is they usually
don’t have a clue until we tell them. It’s time to start reinforcing new
fulfilling habits that bring pleasure instead of falling into the automatic
routine of mundane sex.
No one is ever born a great lover. A great lover has taken the time to
develop skills and most importantly, has a learning attitude. Whether we are
learning a new language, computers or something new at work, the more we
practice the more we perfect what it is we want to achieve. Let’s apply the
same concept to our sexual experience.
So how does one become more sexually fulfilled? The answer here is: ask for
what you want. If you truly want to be happy and satisfied in the bedroom
you must take the time to communicate your needs and desires. Here are eight
tips on getting what you want in the bedroom:
1) Create Time to Connect - Make sure to create time and the
space to connect intimately. There is no need to rush. Create a romantic
mood with candles and sensual music.
2) Be Specific - Clarity is important so get clear with what
you want to experience. What is lacking or what do you want to change?
Whether it is oral sex, meaningful touch or exploring Tantric sexuality, let
your lover know. State specifically what you want your partner to focus on.
If the person you are with truly loves you they will be open to giving to
you in this way
3) Stay Focused - There is no need to focus on the past or
blame your partner for not satisfying you previously. Remember, you allowed
it. Keep your attention on the present moment. You now have the power to
change it.
4) Speak With Honour - Your tone of voice will set the mood,
so speak with love. Share with your partner that you would like to enhance
your sexual experience. Statements like, “I want you to feel every inch of
my body with a slow and light hand” or “I want to learn more about what I
like and what turns me on” or “Let go and allow me to guide you through this
session.”
5) Give Directions - In a soft voice, guide your partner where
to kiss you, where to touch you, how light, how hard, move to the left or
move to the right, to slow down or stop.
6) Be Encouraging - It takes great strength for a man to be
gentle. Always let a man know you appreciate his maleness, his tenderness
and his strength especially when your under the covers. Keep your feelings
genuine and really let him know he is becoming a “Godman” in the bedroom.
7) Be Patient - Your partner may need some practice and things
may not go as planned the first time. Practice makes perfect so stay calm
and for goddess sake, be grateful.
8) Have Fun - Sex should never be serious. Laugh at your self.
Stay connected. Stay light.
Many of us ignore our sexual needs and feel uncomfortable talking about sex
even with the person we are closest too. Remember, you are in charge of your
experience. Taking the time to teach each other what you both want and how
you want it sets a new course of loving action. Eventually, no words need to
be spoken as you both become skilled in pleasing each other. A new level of
understanding always brings a higher level of satisfaction to your bedroom
adventure.
We are all unique and what may stimulate a past partner may not be what
thrills your present lover. What you enjoyed in the past may not be what
you’re into now. Communicate this! Trust and allow for your own growth as a
human being. Allow for newness such as exploring the art of Tantric, which
merges your divinity with your sexuality.
Last but not least, share your values with each other. Keeping your sexual
experiences in line with what is important to you means you will enjoy your
experience that much more.
Now it’s your partners turn! Have fun!
Karen Klassen, owner of Imagine Seminars & Consulting is a personal &
relationship coach. Her company offers personal growth & relationship
seminars. For more information, view
www.imagineseminars.ca or call 403.265.0711 |
