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RISING WOMEN EXPERT
ADVICE...
How does fear play a
roll in one’s adult life and how can one move out of this scenario into
empowerment?
Fear is taught at childhood. Think of the thousands of times you were told
NOT to do something. In general, this is fear based safety.
So how does fear play a roll your adult life? Think again about how many
times you say you “can’t” do something. If you took the time to ask yourself
“why” you feel you can’t, you would be amazed at the level of fear you run
your life on. Coming into this awareness, you automatically allow for
change, however fear also makes us resist change. If you can acknowledge
this too, you will also discover the limitations you have placed on your
life. These limitations are often due to past experiences.
Most people are fearful of rejection or fear not being loved. These are two
very powerful reasons not to step outside of our boundary of safety. If fear
is keeping you in a relationship, or out of one for that matter, ask
yourself what the fear is really about? Whether it is a personal
relationship or professional one, fear can shift the experience into one
that leaves you lonely or one that traps you into a toxic relationship. With
either direction, the sense of powerlessness is created. If your feelings
are powerless in an experience and you do nothing to change, you are living
in fear.
In order to stay in fear you have to convince yourself that the fear is
greater then the reward of change. For example, some believe that if you
don’t put up with the drama or trauma, you won’t have money, love,
companionship, etc. Another example is the workplace. This environment can
also have an interesting “buy into fear” factor as the fear of losing
financial safety can often manipulate you into staying in a position or
doing a job that doesn’t agree with your personal integrity or ethics.
So how does one move from fear into empowerment? By acknowledging the
experience that created the pattern. When you are able to recognize how your
actions support the fear, you now have the basis to open doors to allow
change to occur where safety out weights fear. Safety for many is a foreign
emotion. Working with the mind to create safety is a powerful tool. Such
techniques for this would be Hypnotherapy or Psych-K, for example. These
allow for change to occur and to make change doable. It is time to take back
your power and step out of fear!
For more advice on creating healthy change, contact Karen Matheson at
Sole to Soul Wellness at 403.251.7242. To learn more about Karen’s services,
visit www.soletosoul.ca
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