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I’m tired of hanging out with my friends every weekend. I want to meet
men! Where should I go and what should I do?
By Cathy Brewer of Calgary Speed Dating
There are so many venues for meeting singles in the city. There are
dances, single’s hiking or walking groups, speed dating, pub nights,
single’s volleyball, slow-pitch and so on. I can give you specific ideas
(not only speed dating) if you email or call me using the info at the bottom
of this article.
Don’t go to a single’s event with a friend. I cannot stress this enough. Be
brave. One of the biggest complaints I hear from men is that the women at
the average single’s event tend to huddle together, making them
unapproachable.
Here are some tips on what to do when you go by yourself:
1) Keep telling yourself you can do this. Tell yourself that you are
beautiful and confident. Take a deep breath and walk into the room with
confidence. People will notice and be drawn to this.
2) Dress for different temperatures. It might be cool when you first arrive,
so wear something pretty that can easily be removed when things warm up.
Wearing an outdoor coat is like wearing armor.
3) Get a drink. It doesn’t have to be alcoholic, and often, it’s better if
it’s not. Having a drink in your hand gives you something to do while
observing. A drink gives you something to do if there’s a short lull in the
conversation. It also reassures the group that you are participating along
with them. You aren’t setting yourself apart.
4) Introduce yourself to some men. Consider that other people are shy and
someone has to make the first move. Get over thinking that it should always
be the man who initiates.
5) Back off from expectations of meeting someone special that night. Decide
you’re just going to be friendly, do something different and have fun. If
you meet someone special, consider it a bonus, but don’t go looking for it.
6) Finally, formulate some ideas of what you might ask others when there is
a lull in the conversation. It’s best not to ask, “Do you come to these
things often?” This sort of question is loaded. Ask things of a more
specific nature to that person. What do they like to do when they’re not
working? Have they travelled? Just don’t interrogate. Remember good
conversation is give and take.
For more practical advice on dating & relationships, contact Cathy Brewer
at Calgary Speed Dating at 403.219.DATE (3283)
www.calgaryspeeddating.com
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