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I am now going through a divorce. I have never felt so lost. Can you
settle some of my anxiety?Going through a divorce is definitely one
emotional roller-coater that unfortunately is far too unique to those going
through it to be able to create that magical step-by-step guide. Anger,
sadness, depression, helplessness, loneliness and guilt are all part and
parcel during this volatile time of transition, and the best advice I can
offer is to allow your emotions to play through but don’t let them paralyze
you from moving on.
It is very important that you establish or re-establish your social circle
or lifestyle as a single again right away. Being around friends is a
powerful way to mend your emotional wounds. All to often women’s
hopelessness cause them to withdraw from their friends and family. This is
often because they feel shame and are afraid of people’s criticism or
judgment. It does not have to be this way if you set boundaries as to how
much or little you want to discuss your personal issues with them. Seek out
your general social circle for comfort and, more importantly, escape. Choose
not to bring up your divorce during these times and focus on enjoying life.
Seek out your closest friends for times for tears, venting and, of course,
your favourite Häagen-Dazs!
If the entire divorce process is one that is drawing you into severe
emotional pain, stress and sadness, don’t discount seeking help on a
professional level. There are support group available, and many counsellors
and therapists that specialize in divorce. And there are many alternative
practitioners out there that offer powerful therapies such as Emotional
Release, PSYCH-KTM and hypnotherapy, to name a few. There is no shame in
seeking help on this level and the benefits are ten-fold. This is your
opportunity to take on a “mental” cleanse to detoxify all your pent up
negative energy.
Talking about cleansing...another common pattern people fall in to when
going through a divorce is to ignore and even sabotage their health.
Patterns include over eating and drinking or lack of appetite all together,
resulting in lowered energy, sleep disorders and general sickness. Now is
the time to “choose” to keep a healthy diet, and to rest and exercise. This
is all part of the healing process.
Balance among mind, body and spirit are the ingredients you need to stay
positive and have the energy to make rational decisions that honour you.
Adjusting to divorce is a process that takes time, so allow yourself time to
heal and remember to focus on one day at a time.
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experts@risingwomen.com
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